Single on Purpose

At some point in the grown life, you may find yourself suddenly alone, stunned, stumbling around like a new born fawn trying to walk in the dark. This is called a break up. My last break up kept me in this new born fawn state for quite awhile.

I’ve never been a proponent of single-hood. I’m a firm believer that we serve a God who is all about relationships, and we as humans are by default, in constant need of human companionship. Anyone who has known me for a long time knows I’m a relationship girl. I always have been. Which is what makes my recent decision one that I can only blame on being more grown up than I have been before. I had always heard people in their mid 20’s going through dating fasts and frankly I always thought that was a bit stupid or that they were just hoping that their plan would backfire and they would end up married before the end of the committed “single time.” In spite of all my past judgment I too have come up with a similar plan to fast romance.

So my genius plan is this: 6 months single.

It is my goal to use the next six months to become whoever I want to be for the rest of my life. I want to use this time to better myself in many aspects. I plan on losing weight, and getting in shape. I’m going to work on being more of an encourager and less sarcastic. I want to master CSS/HTML and start working with my brother-in-law on web sites. I am going to learn to surf and hopefully even learn Spanish. I will be moving into a bigger apartment, getting a roommate and maybe even a motorcycle.

I’m not just doing this in hopes of a Where’s Waldo effect. (where the person who is really looking for Waldo can never find him, but the person who looks over their shoulder for two seconds finds him right away) I am however excited by the idea that I don’t have to worry about looking for a guy, keeping an eye out for Mr. Right, or even bothering to do my make-up when I don’t feel like it. I’m excited that at the end of this fast/season/experiment (or whatever you want to call it) I will be much closer to the type of girl, the type of guy I want to marry, would want to marry.

So let the 6 months of ‘single on purpose’ begin! Just another season in the grown life.